Every year, thousands of women, young and old, travel to on their own and come home safe and sound. You can, too, by using the same good judgment you use at home. Begin with caution and figure out as you travel what feels right to you. Create conditions that are likely to turn out in your favor, and you’ll have a safer, smoother, more enjoyable trip.
Here are some tips for safe and pleasant travels that I have picked up through the years:
- Use street smarts. Be self-reliant and well prepared, so that you don’t need to depend on someone unless you want to. Always carry cash, a map, a guidebook, and a phrase book with you. Walk purposefully with your head up, look like you know where you’re going. If you get lost in an unfriendly neighborhood, be savvy about whom you ask for help; seek out another woman or a family, or go into a store or restaurant to ask for directions or to study your map. When you use cash machines, withdraw cash during the day on a busy street, not at night when it’s dark with too few people around.
- Be proactive about public transportation. Before you leave a city, consider visiting the train or bus station you’re going to leave from, so you’ll know where it is, how long it takes to reach it, if it feels safe, and what services it has. If you’re leaving late at night, cafes, including busy Internet cafes with long hours, are a safe and productive place to wait. When taking the train, avoid sleeping in empty compartments. You’re safer sharing a compartment with a family.
- Research prices. Know how long it takes and how much it costs to get from the airport to your hotel or to the city center. Solo travelers are more likely to be “taken for a ride,” so ask the taxi driver how much it will cost before you leave. If it’s considerably different from what you know to be true, take a different cab.
- Follow your insticts. Be your own best counsel; if it doesn’t feel right, don’t do it. Without a companion to watch your back, you are more vulnerable to criminals and scam artists, so you have to have your wits about you.
- Learn how to deal with foreign men. In small towns, men are often more likely to speak English than women. If you never talk to men, you could miss out on a chance to learn about the country. So, by all means, talk to men. Just choose the man and choose the setting. Be aware that sometimes, when you smile and look a man in the eyes, it’s often considered an invitation. Wear dark sunglasses and you can stare all you want. Dress modestly to minimize attention from men. Take your cue from what the local women wear. Try to stay with a group when exploring, and avoid walking alone at night, particularly in unlit areas with few people around. Don’t be overly polite if you’re bothered by someone; it’s important to create boundaries to protect yourself. Use facial expressions, body language, and a loud firm voice to fend off any unwanted attention. If a man comes too close, say “no” firmly and loudly in the local language. That’s usually all it takes.
- Stay visible. Keep to open and public places, especially at night. While returning to your hotel or hostel at night walk briskly and make sure you aren’t being followed. If you feel like you’re being followed or hassled, trust your instincts. Don’t worry about overreacting or seeming foolish. Start screaming and acting crazy if the situation warrants it. Or head to the nearest hotel ask the hotelier to call you a cab to take you to your own hotel, hostel, or B&B.
- Lie a little. Not only can you invent your own persona or history, but you can also make your life easier with little white lies. When asking directions, don’t let on that you are alone: “Can you direct me to the museum? I have to meet a friend.” Wear a real or fake wedding ring. While travelling through Bali I had honeymoon henna on my hands which stopped people from harassing me everywhere. Remember, there’s no need to tell people that you’re traveling alone, or whether you’re actually married or single. Lie unhesitatingly. You’re traveling with your husband. He’s waiting for you at the hotel.
- Avoid appearing like a tourist. Ditch the “I Love NY” t-shirt and dress like the locals so that you can blend in. Don’t draw attention to yourself by wearing flashy clothes or jewelry, you don’t want to stand out in a strange country. Don’t walk around with your face in a guidebook. Study your map or book while sitting at a cafe or restaurant not out on the street
- Stay in contact. Leave a copy of your itinerary with a friend or family member at home, and stay in touch regularly via phone or e-mail. This way at least someone knows where you are or should be and can send out a search party if they havent heard from you in a while.10. Go with the flow. Unless you’re fluent in the language, accept the fact that you won’t always know what’s going on.
- Just in case, carry pepper spray. And don’t be scared to use it!!
By using common sense, making good decisions, and above all else, having confidence in yourself and your ability to travel on your own, you’ll be rewarded with rich experiences — and great stories to tell your friends.
These are great tips. Thank you for sharing your travel experience, Janaline! 🙂
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Great advice, however what caught more my attention was the great pictures of Bo-Kaap, Cape Town, that by a strange coincidence share a resemblance to my birthplace 14,555 Km away! 🙂
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Brilliant tips!
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Thank you
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Great advice! Many of your pointers also apply to male travelers as well.
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True, male or female we are all sometimes targets….
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You’d be surprised how much of what you have written above applies equally to male tourists! I believe that the most important thing as a visitor to a strange location is to walk as if you know exactly where you’re going – an air of confidence makes you less attractive to criminals. Pre-learning your intended route and possible alternatives saves you looking at the map – an action which makes you appear vulnerable and therefore a target. And, I’d suggest keeping your camera in a proper camera-bag; only taking it out briefly when you intend to use it – wearing it round your neck says Tourist!
As an aside (for blokes) – never carry your wallet in your back pocket… Easy for thieves and it’s also bad for your back when you sit on it all the time 😦
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Thank you!
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Every piece of advice you have offered is solid! Excellent post.
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Thank you so much Resa!
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Excellent advice. I travel solo a lot and agree with all your recommendations, especially number 8.
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Thank you Marie! And safe travels!!
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Good tips Janaline and fab photos!
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Thanks Suzanne!!
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I chose to convert a minivan into a camper rather than but an RV (and would do it again despite what my girls want). That way I could blend in easier with the locals, even with out of state plates.
Also around town I carried myself as a business professional. When I wanted to take photos I carried myself as a photographer with all my equipment to look more like I was there for a shoot rather than a tourist.
And another piece of advice…if you really don’t want to be bothered – pretend you’re in a conversation on your phone. Even if you don’t talk people are reluctant to disturb a conversation.
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Thanks Anna! I am sure having a minivan slash camper is great and would love to own one someday and travel all around the continent with it. I have never thought of “disguising” myself as a photographer but thinking about it, it makes a lot of sense, thanks.
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Excellent post, Janaline. A lot of this common sense, but great to have it all together here. Actually, one thing I have done for years is to wear a money belt, with just a small amount of change in my handbag, so if that was to get taken it’s not a big deal.
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Thanks Sue, that is another great tip that I should include in this list as it does give you a bit more confidence. I usually keep my passport and credit card in my money belt aswell….you never know what could happen.
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I travelled alone in Europe when I was 18, and was not as careful as I should have been. I remember plenty of times when I now realise I should have exerted more caution!! Great tips!
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Thank you Alissa, A lot of us have to learn the hard way unfortanutely.
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Some self-defense tips that I have been told are if you do get into trouble — shouting help will not necessarily get someone to help you. Often times people don’t want to put themselves in a dangerous situation and may be less likely to assist you. But, if you start shouting “fire!” people will come running outside because obviously…they think it might be there house on fire. So, I try to learn the foreign word for “fire” when I travel.
Also, when you’re walking alone on a street…it IS incredibly important to walk with purpose and not appear distracted or lost. Walk fast too. One other deterrent is to keep your keys in your hand. It gets you in the door quicker wherever your destination is and if you feel threatened…your keys can be used as a form of self defense. See video below: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DuEVfMxs684
Talking on your cell phone will not necessarily deter someone. So don’t talk on your cell when you’re walking from one place to another, it slows you down and distracts you.
Lastly, I cannot emphasize more DO NOT BE OVERLY POLITE when trying to get away from someone. They won’t get the hint. Don’t be afraid to be blunt…even if you come off as rude. If you feel threatened then being concerned over being rude is the last thing you need to worry about. This has come in handy the most when I have been on my own traveling.
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Those are fabulous tips thanks. I already walk with my keys out before I get even close to my place. In the future I am definitely going to learn the word for Fire, thanks for that tip.
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Great tips Janaline…. Just a couple more to add – (1) Wear minimal jewelery when out and about (keep the bling to the down low) and (2) Don’t keep all your cash in one place.
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Thanks Shikha, those are fabulous tips!! I always keep a little of emergency money tucked away somewhere.
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I agree with your tips. Inevitably, there may be some tricky moments, but keeping a cool head & walking confidently is important.
Love your Bo-Kaap photos!
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Thanks Jardin!! safe travels!
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I’m a great admirer of your solo sojourning and I see from this post you have learnt many good lessons for staying safe – to be frank, I stick to this advice on some of London’s streets too (though I never wear tourist tshirts). Your adventuring has coloured your world so brilliantly judging by these captures.
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Thank you Laura. Walking around the streets of Cape Town I am quite vigilant but I have realized that if I wear a UK or one of my foreign scarves people are way more friendly and actually go out of their way to help me…..which is quite lovely sometimes.
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Well considered advice. I prefer to travel alone, free of compromise and open to any opportunity that arises. I don’t use them myself but I recommend not listing to music on head phones when out and about. It’s important so many reasons to keep all your senses alert…thanks Jan…
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Thank you, I agree! Even if you dont listen to music, walking around with your headphones in does deter people from aproaching you and you get to explore unbothered more.
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A lot of the time personal safety while travelling is common sense, but thanks for putting together a concise go-to guide for us to to read just before we embark on another solo adventure!
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You are more than welcome. While exploring Cape Town lately people have asked me how safe it is to walk around alone like me….
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I walk around Cape Town a lot too. You’ve just got to be street smart and listen to the “common sense voice” in your inner ear 🙂
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Love this! Great photos.
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A massive thank you Robyn!
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All good tips, Janaline. Interesting buildings. Very colorful.
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Thank you!! took these photos while walking around Cape Town.
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